2009 is going to be eventful year for sure. 7 batchmates are going to get married after all. From last couple of weeks some of them in Bangalore was asking for some help regarding marriage life. Initially I thought they were just joking but when I felt their seriousness for this matter I was compelled to think about the same. I am not the SME (Subject matter Expert) for this topic but sharing what I think about marriage. Here are some points.
Disclaimer: Some of the points I made will be correct only for men.
Friendship: The most important part of the marriage is look for a friend. Remember how we talk to our friends, give respect to them, ignore those silly fights about weird topics, be with them in their tough times, sometimes give privacy to them, do not expect any gifts from them on birthday even after throwing a party and list goes on. The same happens in the married life. once we are done with exploring each other bodies this "Friendship" keeps our relationship alive. So just be a friend.
Ready to get change: By the way why we say yes to marriage. If your answer is one of these due to parents pressure, due to social pressure, my friends have been married etc, the I'll seriously suggest you to wait and introspect and ask "Am I ready for the marriage?". The reason you are marrying is you want to change your current way of living and ready to move to new phase of life where you want to take responsibility of not only your own but of your partner also. So why you fight when someone tells you to change your habit of throwing wet towel on bed? Why you fight when someone tells you to keep things in place? Why do you fight when someone tells your not to rub your face with curtains? We married because we want change so change these habits. You do not want to loose your marriage for these silly habits.
Micro management vs Macro Management: In the professional life as you keep growing up in the ladder, you are supposed to macro manage the things. if you try to micro manage your subordinates you are pissing them off. the same holds good in married life. Never ever try to micro manage. The food is not good, these rotis are not well cooked, masala is not proper in the vegetable. I am a man, I'll not do household jobs etc etc. Believe me the list is very very long.
Comparison is the key: Yes! comparison is the key to fight. Never ever compare your spouse or his/her work with others. Gentlemen please avoid comparing your wife with your mother. She is not. Ladies all the men hates appreciation of Bollywood hunks in front of them even if they do not show it.
I had enough. Couple of last words. It is true that marriage is made in heaven but to make it last is your responsibility.
I've just reached home after watching one of the most awaited movie of this year "GHAJINI" and unable to stop myself writing about it. In fact I was also waiting for the movie to be released because Aamir is in lead role in this movie and he is one of my favorite. I was expecting a lot from it especially when the Tamil version of this movie was a big hit.
But frankly speaking the movie was a huge disappointment for me. Big disappointment. I felt nothing in the movie. The movie was unable to relate with the viewer. It was just another Bollywood masala movie. Nothing more than that.
One of the funniest part of the movie is in the last sequence when hero was chasing villain. When hero reached to the villian after defeating at least 15 of his Goondas and only villian is left, he told to hero "Ab to gaya tu". Oh man!!!! it was he, the Goonda who was in problem, not the hero. How can he say this to the hero, who has already killed all the men. Anyways, after this dialouge same happened what generally happens in all the bollywood movies.
By the way when I am talking about last sequence I must tell you that it was total fake. Hero can remember the things only for just 15 mins. In that 15 minutes not only hero reach to villain's place from the hospital as well as did all the fight but hero still remember everything. In fact in the whole movie I got the idea is that hero lost his memory only when he wants to.
If all this would have happened in other movie I had not given a single thought about it. But Aamir, the so called Perfectionist was working in this movie so unable to ignore these silly things.
Anyways it will be one of the biggest hit of the year even if Aamir's fan watch this movie once. But for me it's one of the biggest flop of the year. May be 1 out of 5.
We all have traveled in Indian Railways a lot in its different coaches whether it is sleeper class, 3rd AC or 2nd AC etc. But have we ever noticed how a person behave in different manner while traveling in AC coach as compare to when the same person travels in sleeper coach. Personally I don't prefer traveling in AC coach when I am traveling alone. Reason?? Lots of are there.
English is the preferred language: I have seen people from small cities where if you even say "Left" or "Right" in place of its Hindi meanings, people get confused, speak in Hindi till they are waiting for the train on platform. Once they enter the coach, there preferred language becomes English. Not against with it but surprise to see the small time lag between switching. PJ: Bill gates should take inspiration for his Windows.
English books and magazine: Just an extension of English attitude. They read only English books, magazine, news paper. They give filthy looks to those who read something in Hindi.
People prefer to keep quite: Actually it's a reflection of metro culture. people does not know who are their neighbors. But the question is how the same people talk to the fellow passengers while traveling in sleeper class?
But there are similarities too in the behavior irrespective of the coach in which the person travels.
Dirty Attitude: One thing which is common among the people that they all put all of their efforts in making coach as dirty as possible. Weather it is chocolates wrapper, or leftovers of ground-nuts etc. People do not give even a single look to the mess they spread all over.
Lack of civic sense: People tend to travel with whole house holds they can keep. I've seen few families who travels with less luggage but the number is very high who travels in the ratio of at least 3 baggage per person.
No respect for rules and regulations: Smoking is legally not allowed at public places but thanks to our system no one seems to follow those rules. In fact they see all these rules as an attack to their personal freedom. Irrespective of the coach, irrespective of the people around when I see someone smoking in pulic place the only song comes to my mid is "Har fikr ko dhuwaein mein udata chala gaya".
I am the first attitude: Have you ever notice the people when they enter in any railway coach. As if there is first come first serve policy going on. Everybody has the reservation and thanks to Indian railway it always gives 2-5 mins more to enter than it's expected time on any platform. But still everyone always wants to rush it like there is a gold medal awaiting inside if they come first.
But I want to confess here that even with so many issues anyone face while traveling in train I like to travel by it. I really enjoy it and I believe most of us feel the same.
What an extra-ordinary year this is. It;s full of events some good and rest not so good. Achievements for India in Olympics, biggest financial crisis since 1929-30 in US and now India's maiden mission to the moon. Not the much time left when we'll be in the group of handful of countries who has done this before. If everything goes right, on Oct 22 we'll start our journey to the moon with a blast.
It is a very big event for the whole nation and moment to proud. There is one more thing to be proud of is that the technology used in this mission is developed by Indian scientist. It shows that how independent we are when it comes to technology.
This is just a first step towards a long journey in space. I wish the whole team all the best and thanks for giving us this moment.
FOSLA - does it remind you of anything? Frustrated One Side Lovers Association. As the name clearly indicates the group is for those who are frustrated with chasing girls but not yet have one. It is one of the biggest group exist anywhere in the world but undocumented. This group is very popular among graduates doing engineering. There is a reason for that. Lack of good girls in Maths stream, which inturn cause a scarcity in engineering colleges. But I think the situation is far better than our times.
Though it was that much popular in other college, but it did not gain much recognition in our college. You know as per Human tendency frustration arises when you see all other around you is having something and you do not have that. And there will be no frustration when no one will have one. That was the condition in our college. In a batch of 106 there was only 1 female creature and that was also not upto the mark as per our standards (No offence please). So we were all happy because we all were not having anything.
I believe each one of us have lots of experiences being the member of such prestigious group and this blog might remind you those sweet memories. So, with this Happy enjoying those memories and Wish all the luck who are still the member of the group. If possible you can share the memories by posting comments to this blog.
Yesterday what a day for Indian sports. Amazing, is isn't??? First Sushil Kumar grab the bronze in wrestling. Then Vijendra secured at least Bronze (He can win more if he wins next fight). We got another victory in one-day match against Sri-lanka.
But this is the first time in my whole life where I feel Indian Cricket win is smaller than other sports. I watched Vijendra's quarter-final match more aggresively than T-20 cricket match (India vs Pakistan). And I am eagerly waiting for Vijendra's fight in semis tomorrow.
These are hero of the day, in fact of the century. Did we ever won 3 medals in a single Olympic. The answer is NO (though I haven't researched it but quite sure). The story began after wining Gold by Abhinav. These are really the dawn (read DON) of Indian sports. I am sure, they have ignited billion hearts and we'll soon see 30 and then 300 medals in a single Olympic given politics will not work as barrier.
India is participating in Olympics from last 80 years but today in 2008, the world's second most populous nation won first ever Olympic GOLD medal in solo category. The history is created and it's created by Abhinav Bindra.
He came ahead strongly to the Zhu Qinan, the defending champion, who won gold in last Olympics. I was lucky enough to see medal distribution ceremony live on DD-Sports today. It felt proud rather very proud when they play our National Anthem. I was so excited even I was just watching it on television, I cannot even think of the level of excitment of those who were physiclly present there or of the winner (Abhinav) itself.
Possibly the dawn of Indian sports has arrived and I hope if everything (politics, sports authorities, corporate) goes in right direction we can be next super power in sports also.
