2009 is going to be eventful year for sure. 7 batchmates are going to get married after all. From last couple of weeks some of them in Bangalore was asking for some help regarding marriage life. Initially I thought they were just joking but when I felt their seriousness for this matter I was compelled to think about the same. I am not the SME (Subject matter Expert) for this topic but sharing what I think about marriage. Here are some points.
Disclaimer: Some of the points I made will be correct only for men.
Friendship: The most important part of the marriage is look for a friend. Remember how we talk to our friends, give respect to them, ignore those silly fights about weird topics, be with them in their tough times, sometimes give privacy to them, do not expect any gifts from them on birthday even after throwing a party and list goes on. The same happens in the married life. once we are done with exploring each other bodies this "Friendship" keeps our relationship alive. So just be a friend.
Ready to get change: By the way why we say yes to marriage. If your answer is one of these due to parents pressure, due to social pressure, my friends have been married etc, the I'll seriously suggest you to wait and introspect and ask "Am I ready for the marriage?". The reason you are marrying is you want to change your current way of living and ready to move to new phase of life where you want to take responsibility of not only your own but of your partner also. So why you fight when someone tells you to change your habit of throwing wet towel on bed? Why you fight when someone tells you to keep things in place? Why do you fight when someone tells your not to rub your face with curtains? We married because we want change so change these habits. You do not want to loose your marriage for these silly habits.
Micro management vs Macro Management: In the professional life as you keep growing up in the ladder, you are supposed to macro manage the things. if you try to micro manage your subordinates you are pissing them off. the same holds good in married life. Never ever try to micro manage. The food is not good, these rotis are not well cooked, masala is not proper in the vegetable. I am a man, I'll not do household jobs etc etc. Believe me the list is very very long.
Comparison is the key: Yes! comparison is the key to fight. Never ever compare your spouse or his/her work with others. Gentlemen please avoid comparing your wife with your mother. She is not. Ladies all the men hates appreciation of Bollywood hunks in front of them even if they do not show it.
I had enough. Couple of last words. It is true that marriage is made in heaven but to make it last is your responsibility.
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